“What ever happened to coffee?” I thought to myself as I laid in bed a few nights ago. I was feeling compelled to text a boy and ask him why I hadn’t heard from him in forever. Long story short I didn’t, and while not knowing made me anxious and left me without closure, I believe I made the right decision.
About a month ago I briefly talked to a boy for a few weeks. We texted for a little bit, but immediatly made plans to try and meet up for coffee. I was so excited. We had similar interest and I was generally curious about him. When it came time to actually meet up things fell through, initially due to weather, but shortly after he just kind of disappeared.
It was so discouraging. What changed his mind? Why did he seem interested and then disappear so quickly? Nothing seemed to go wrong, and I couldn’t find a single reason for why this might’ve happened.
In the past I’ve beaten myself up so badly over things not working out and constantly wondering what went wrong while blaming myself. I’m an over thinker to say the least.
I have been discovering and starting to truly believe that my worth isn’t found in a boy, and that I am good enough.
I’ve recently come to realize that some things just simply dont work out. It’s no ones fault necessarily. I’ve come to accept that sometimes I won’t have all the answers and that’s okay. I’m not going to sit here and lie that I don’t wonder why things don’t work out, but I don’t let it dim the rest of the good things in my life that have worked out. It isn’t the end of the world.
Don’t get discouraged if things don’t work out. It can be upsetting initially, but after a while things just start to fade and new opportunities appear. Don’t let the fear of the unknown hold you back from living your life. It’s time to stop dwelling on the things that didn’t work out in the past and move forward. The future is so bright, and even as I’m writing this I’m discovering just that!